Now you’re probably thinking: Really Ben?? Losing EVERYTHING is that really an opportunity? Since working with many business owners, who have had everything and lost it multiple times, I can tell you that it is.
The sad thing is that most people don’t have this perception; they often remain stuck in a victim mentality. They say things like: “why does this always happen to me?” or “I am just so unlucky in life.” Instead, I want you to start taking responsibility, to hit the reset button and start preparing for an even more sensational future.
Once you have had the experience of losing many things in your life it actually allows you to think about what truly matters to you. You can think about your purpose and consider what you actually want to build in your life.
Many people never have the space, or the opportunity to start again. I personally have hit rock bottom many times in my life. Be it with relationships, health, business, finances or emotions. I think we have all had our fair few negative experiences and I wanted to share one with you.
This experience was when I almost became broke in China.
It was when I was first building my business to help people transform their life. I had no idea what to niche in and was exploring helping people from all walks of life. I started going to talks, speaking at events and even hosting my own free events to bring potential people in.
However, despite all my effort for months I didn’t sign a single client. Perhaps you too can relate, where you put so much effort into a business yet nothing happened. I didn’t have any other income at the time and I remember watching the cash in my bank account very rapidly decrease.
What made it even more challenging was that I was in an international relationship and needed to afford flights and accommodation. I was in fact flying in between Los Angeles, London and Shanghai! (I definitely should have chosen cheaper cities!!!) Nonetheless this pressure I started to put on myself, made me feel stressed, worried and depressed. I felt like I needed the very thing that I was offering others. Yet I found that with no money in the bank account my mindset as an entrepreneur was starting to move into scarcity and I seriously started to doubt myself.
I spoke to a friend Andrew at the time, who said it would be smarter to get a job and use that income to build up the business. Although I think this is a fantastic piece of advice I hadn’t ever had a REAL job and didn’t want to start teaching English in China.
It was at that moment that I made a key decision. I decided that I would do anything possible to avoid having to get a job. I didn’t want to work to make someone else’s dream a reality. I knew what I had to give was valuable and I would make sure to over deliver to the clients that I would work with.
I took some massive action and started to attend even more events, meet more people and conduct many 1 on 1 coaching conversations. A few more weeks went by with no results!
I was less than 2 weeks away from having nothing in my account.
Then I finally took my first high ticket client on. I can’t tell you what a relief that was! Suddenly I knew I could do it and that everything would be ok!
It was only through this belief that I MUST make it work that I prevailed in reaching the outcome I desired. Remember that persistence is key in life! In these challenging times we are in, it’s easy to be down on ourselves and put an immense amount of pressure to achieve specific results.
I challenge you to slow down and to reflect about what is it that you really want in life? What is your purpose and mission? Only then can you have the inner drive and motivation to really follow through on what it is that you desire.
